About Harry

Harry came to us 2 days before opening of the program, referred by my friend, a medical doctor. A quiet man from Canada with stage four lymphoma, just finished chemotherapy and radiation 2 months ago, which proved unsuccessful.  Although he was in constant pain (for which he had morphine) he was determined to attend as much of the program as he could. Right from the beginning his will to live was very apparent.

The results of test on the first day of program showed a lot of tension, depression and anger. I was not surprised – he was told he had only 6 months to live. Sujaya, one of the befriended co-participants writes: “We each had our stories but his was the most painful as his cancer had not been contained by traditional medicine. He was in debilitating pain caused by the spreading tumor. His eyes reflected the pain and hopelessness he felt and my heart went out to him. I could not imagine what it must feel like when you are waiting to die.”

Harry had great difficulties with yoga Nidra because of the physical pain. At some point I offered to help him with Healing Touch. He wrote later in his diary 

Lee, was kind to offer her healing touch. Her touch was soothing and kept me calm throughout the yoga Nidra. Lee is a compassionate person and her compassion comes through her work with cancer patients trying to make a difference in their lives. I am sure her work has touched many lives in a positive way.

As we went on to second week of the program Sujaya wrote: “with each passing day Harry developed a definite sparkle in his eye and lightness in his walk. He was changing how he looked at his prognosis.  We began to talk about the future”.

One day Harry asked me for counseling session. He talked about his life, about those he loved and hurt and about his regrets. I asked him to put this all on paper for the next session. We met again after few days and he read what he wrote on 8 pages. It was a difficult read for him and he stopped few times to hold the tears back. I then built a little fire and he burned page by page while we held hands chanting Trayambakam – his favorite healing mantra. The next day his smile became much bigger as he said – I left a lot of burden in that fire and I feel much lighter! Later on we heard him humming an Indian raga he remembered form his childhood.

By the end of the program the tests confirmed the improvement on all fronts: tension wend down from 17 to 8, depression went down form 22 to 9, anger from 13 to 5, vigor increased from 5 to 13, fatigue went form 16 to 10 and confusion went from 13 to 7. When we reviewed the results together Harry said: 

Yes – that’s about how I feel. And one more thing… when I came to the program I was afraid of death – now I am not. I will live as long as I can and spend as much time with my sons as possible.

“At the end of the program I feel Harry left Kaivalyadham much more at peace with himself.  I think somewhere along the way he unearthed a will to fight and acceptance to live as happily as he could for as long as he would” – Sujaya wrote.

Six weeks later we learned that Harry passed away peacefully, surrounded by his family.

The referring medical doctor commented “This Rejuvenation for Cancer Patients program was the best present we could give him before passing on”.

 

The best spiritual story I’ve ever heard.

Once there lived a king, he had everything he wished for, but one fine day three questions came across his mind.

The questions were:

1. What is the most important time ?
2. Who is the most important person ?
3. What is the most important thing to do ?

He became pretty restless and to find out the answers he went to his ministers and asked the questions. The ministers after listening to his questions replied, “Oh, your holiness the most important time is the time you became king”. To his next question they replied, “You are the most important person because you’re the king” and to his last question they replied, “King please expand your kingdom it is the most important thing to do”.

But the answers he got didn’t satisfy him. Realizing this the chief minister got worried, as now his job was in danger, so he suggested the king to meet the sage who lives on the mountain at the edge of the kingdom.
The chief minister knew these questions are deeper questions and only that sage could answer them.

The next day the king goes along with his twenty soldiers and reached the mountain by the dusk. He thought it would be inappropriate to meet the sage with so many soldiers so he ordered them to stay there and started to climb alone. As he reached the top he got very tired, but somehow he reached the cave where the sage was meditating, so he waited for him to complete the meditation, but after a long three hour wait the sage didn’t wake up and thus king decided that he would spend the night there and in the morning he would ask the questions. So, he puts down his turban and sword and goes to sleep.

The next morning he wakes up with the sunlight streaming in the cave with beautiful bird song and fresh air. He gets up, rubs his eyes to see the sage is not there. So, he walks out of the cave and goes to the edge of the cliff to see the glorious sight, he could see his whole kingdom from there. He was amazed to see his glorious kingdom and the beautiful sight brings a huge smile on his face.
In his palace every morning was so different, the first thing he gets is bad news, all his ministers and spies would come and tell him what wrong is going on and tension…tension…tension!

But as he is standing there on the edge of the cliff and admiring his kingdom, his heart just connects and realizes that this is why he is the king, to serve all these people. Just then he realizes someone patting his shoulder, the king turns around to see the sage standing there, he has king’s sword pointing at him and looking deeply into king’s eyes and the sage says, “King, tell me, what is the most important time ? Who is the most important person ? & What is the most important thing to do ?”. These three questions hit the king and a twinkle comes into his eyes. The sage realizes this man has got it, so he puts the sword down and says, “king, now you can go and rule your kingdom.”

That’s the story!

Now you might be wondering, where are the answers ? You should deeply think about these questions. If you were the king what will you say, standing on the cliff, sage pointing the sword at you?

 

1. What is the most important time ?

All our concepts about time – past, future all that dissolves in the moment, there is only the NOW, all the thoughts vanished when the king saw the sword pointed at him. So, there is only the now, the present! everything else is a story and the quality of the story is the quality of our life.

2. Who is the most important person ?

Some may say jokingly, “The guy pointing the sword” or some may say, “yourself” and that’s correct, “the person you are with” is the right answer. But it happens upside down, when we are with someone we are preoccupied with ourselves, we are thinking about our own things, or what we are going to say & when we are on our own we think about other people. So, the most important person is the person you’re with. If you are own your own, you’re the most important person at that point of time. If you’re with someone, then that person is the most important person at that point of time.

3. What is the most important thing to do ?

Remember before the sage came, the king felt tremendous love and care for his kingdom.
The most important thing to do is to love and care, be more kind.Even Dalai Lama was asked, he said, “My religion is kindness” be kind to the people in your life.

Live in the present, give your 100% to the person you’re with and be more kind and caring. That’s all that is needed in life.