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Can You Be Ambitious & Balanced The Myth of ‘Having It All’ & What Yoga Teaches Instead
For decades, women have been told they can “have it all”—a thriving career, a fulfilling personal life, good health, and a sense of purpose. Yet, for many, this promise feels more like a burden than empowerment. Balancing professional success with personal well-being often leads to exhaustion, with women carrying the invisible weight of expectation—at work, at home, and within themselves.
The real question isn’t whether you can have it all, but whether you should even try. The traditional model of balance, where every aspect of life receives equal attention at all times, is an illusion. Yoga offers an alternative: a fluid, intuitive approach to ambition that doesn’t demand burnout. Through yogic wisdom, we can redefine success—not as a race to juggle everything perfectly, but as a practice of alignment, presence, and mindful action.
The Cultural Pressure to Do It All
Modern society glorifies busyness as a badge of honor. Women, in particular, are expected to excel in multiple roles—leader, caregiver, partner, friend—while maintaining a sense of personal well-being. Social media fuels this pressure, reinforcing the idea that balance means seamlessly managing work deadlines, home responsibilities, fitness, and self-care, all while staying effortlessly composed.
However, studies paint a different picture:
- Women often experience higher levels of stress and anxiety than men, influenced by factors such as societal expectations, domestic responsibilities, and the challenge of balancing work and family roles.
- Chronic stress can have significant adverse effects on women’s physical and mental health, including increased risks of burnout, insomnia, and fatigue.
Clearly, the modern definition of balance isn’t working. Yoga, however, offers a different perspective—one that honors natural rhythms rather than forcing constant equilibrium.
Yogic Wisdom: Balance Is a State of Being, Not a To-Do List
The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali emphasize the concept of Sthira Sukham Asanam (2.46), which means that true steadiness (sthira) and ease (sukha) arise when there is a balance of effort and surrender. This principle applies not only to physical postures but to life itself.
Rather than striving to give everything equal attention, yoga teaches dynamic balance—knowing when to push forward and when to pause, when to lead and when to surrender.
In the Bhagavad Gita (2.48), Krishna advises:
Perform your duty with equanimity, abandoning attachment to success or failure. This balance is the essence of yoga.
In other words, balance is not about controlling every aspect of life but about learning to stay centered despite external fluctuations.
What Does This Look Like in Daily Life?
Instead of exhausting yourself by trying to juggle everything perfectly, a yogic approach suggests:
- Prioritizing with Purpose – Instead of trying to do it all, focus on what truly aligns with your values.
- Creating Rhythms, Not Rigid Schedules – Allow work and rest to exist in natural cycles rather than forcing productivity 24/7.
- Letting Go of External Validation – Shift from striving for perfection to striving for presence.
Yoga’s Approach to Sustainable Ambition
1. Sankalpa: Setting an Intention Instead of Chasing an Ideal
In contrast to goal-setting, which is often externally focused (e.g., promotions, weight loss, achievements), yoga emphasizes Sankalpa, a deeply personal intention that aligns ambition with inner truth.
Try this: Instead of setting rigid goals, begin your day with a question:
“What is one thing I can do today that aligns with my highest self?”
This shifts focus from external pressures to internal alignment, making ambition feel energizing rather than depleting.
2. Pratyahara: Creating Digital & Mental Boundaries
In yoga, Pratyahara is the practice of withdrawal from external distractions. In modern life, this translates to setting boundaries—especially around work and technology—to prevent burnout.
Try this: Establish screen-free times in your day, especially in the mornings and evenings. Use this time for mindful movement, meditation, or simply being present with yourself or loved ones.
This small shift can increase mental clarity, reduce stress, and improve focus, allowing for better work efficiency and deeper relaxation.
3. Rhythmic Work: Honoring Natural Energy Cycles
Rather than pushing through exhaustion, yoga encourages working with natural cycles. The body operates on ultradian rhythms, meaning we function best in 90-minute work cycles followed by rest.
Try this: Instead of working non-stop, schedule breaks every 90 minutes. Step away from screens, practice Nadi Shodhana (alternate nostril breathing), or do a few gentle stretches to reset energy levels.
This prevents burnout while improving productivity, proving that working smarter, not harder, leads to sustainable success.
Redefining Success: From Perfection to Presence
The myth of “having it all” suggests that balance is about doing everything equally, all the time. But yoga teaches that balance is about awareness and adaptation—shifting when needed, resting when necessary, and acting from a place of inner clarity.
Rather than chasing an unrealistic ideal, the real question becomes:
Are you living in a way that feels sustainable, nourishing, and true to your deepest values?
When ambition is aligned with presence, it stops being exhausting and starts being expansive.
~ Written by Ritika S